Once an internet friend I got to know from a relationship/match make site, after a few exchange of emails, he popped a rather relevant question on love and relationship. He, in his mid 30’s, said to have gone through couple of breakups, started to wonder if one could actually do ‘it’ differently, by finding someone compatible then grow the love/relationship together? He also stated that falling in love on first sight is a great thing, but many issues between couple that need to be figured out before going any further.
First, I couldn’t see the ‘light’ that he was seeing, and my reply was dully conclude that either way would be the same as it still burn down to the fundamental of both parties being able/willing to commit to a 'relationship' after that, which still, involve a lot of efforts.
After a few heart drilling meet ups with some ‘supposingly clicky’ email ‘friends’, and a witness of the marriage of a friend who undergone 9 years of courtship, the posted question popped up in my head.
Can one find someone compatible then grow the love/relationship together? Is this the simpler formula for those who don’t seem to sustain a true relationship? Let say, one day, u meet this interesting person which both of you have good feelings on, just plain good feeling and nothing more than that, and both of you agree to take this ‘acquaintance’ to a prospecting level. Say, if both of you really serious and go with one light, in search of the compatibility, will this end up something better? Perhaps you might then discover that the ‘learning curve’ of sorting out two person’s difference might be an ‘enlightening’ process itself. The decision of whether the ‘bind’ is indeed a ‘good deal’ or otherwise, will be sorted out eventually, when the clearer picture surface.
Well, isn’t this making sense? Perhaps perhaps! Again, my brain is tinkling on another alarming issue – are choices, plenty of them, good for the mankind in the world of love hunting? Should we, for once and for all, blind out our wondering heart, and start looking for one choice at a time? Worth pondering…
1 comment:
Ahhh another good one. I woudl agree to that. For some, courting before marriage works but for others, courting after marriage. As for me, cant say which for as for now am still looking. Maybe I should try the courting after marriage. Maybe that will work for me. Yeap, a point to ponder ...
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